php mail not going out stuck in mail queue

Hello , if anyone has insight into this dilemma, would be appriciated.

Have ispconfig 3 on centos 6.5 vps, wordpress site installed from APS installer.
Forgot pass word emails, php mail() emails are sitting in the mail queue.

netstat -tap has these kinds of entries for smtp

tcp 0 0 *:ftp *:* LISTEN 7456/pure-ftpd (SER
tcp 0 0 *:domain *:* LISTEN 24186/named
tcp 0 0 *:ssh *:* LISTEN 938/sshd
tcp 0 0 *:smtp *:* LISTEN 10871/master
tcp 0 0 localhost:rndc *:* LISTEN 24186/named
tcp 0 0 *:https *:* LISTEN 2661/httpd
tcp 1 0 localhost:smtp localhost:54677 CLOSE_WAIT -
tcp 1 0 localhost:smtp localhost:54644 CLOSE_WAIT -
tcp 1 0 localhost:smtp localhost:54841 CLOSE_WAIT -
tcp 1 0 localhost:smtp localhost:54850 CLOSE_WAIT -
tcp 1 0 localhost:smtp localhost:54740 CLOSE_WAIT -
tcp 1 0 localhost:smtp localhost:54804 CLOSE_WAIT -
tcp 1 0 localhost:smtp localhost:54776 CLOSE_WAIT -
tcp 1 0 localhost:smtp localhost:54813 CLOSE_WAIT -
tcp 1 0 localhost:smtp localhost:54832 CLOSE_WAIT -


the maillog has
Oct 27 11:23:22 mydomain postfix/master[10871]: warning: process /usr/libexec/postfix/smtpd pid 17628 exit status 1
Oct 27 11:23:22 mydomain postfix/master[10871]: warning: /usr/libexec/postfix/smtpd: bad command startup -- throttling
Oct 27 11:23:58 mydomain postfix/cleanup[17710]: fatal: open database /etc/mailman/virtual-mailman.db: No such file or directory
Oct 27 11:23:59 mydomain postfix/master[10871]: warning: process /usr/libexec/postfix/cleanup pid 17710 exit status 1
Oct 27 11:23:59 mydomain postfix/master[10871]: warning: /usr/libexec/postfix/cleanup: bad command startup -- throttling

the mailman one I assume is okay as I opted out of installing it I also did not install squirrel mail

 

touch: cannot touch `/etc/mailman/virtual-mailman': No such file or directory

but find mailman gives /var/lib/mailman

I ask should I redo with that directory addition? didn't want to risk a deeper mess up
touch /var/lib/mailman/virtual-mailman ?

 

okayy the plot thickens
netstat show *smtp listening

but maillog:
C567EB4314 578 Mon Oct 27 12:32:42 [email protected]
(host 127.0.0.1[127.0.0.1] said: 451 4.5.0 id=12498-01 - Temporary MTA failure on relaying, From MTA() during fwd-connect (No greeting, dt: 1.017 s): id=12498-01 (in reply to end of DATA command))
[email protected]

CA1BFB430C 380 Mon Oct 27 11:16:27 [email protected]
(host 127.0.0.1[127.0.0.1] said: 451 4.5.0 id=12499-02 - Temporary MTA failure on relaying, From MTA() during fwd-connect (No greeting, dt: 35.036 s): id=12499-02 (in reply to end of DATA command))
[email protected]

where dallas@ is from me running site page to send out an email

**update **
Sorry that's mailq not maillog this is maillog:

Oct 27 17:09:24 mydomain postfix/smtp[12695]: 78F21B431C: to=<[email protected]>, relay=127.0.0.1[127.0.0.1]:10024, conn_use=4, delay=484, delays=0.02/433/0/50, dsn=4.5.0, status=deferred (host 127.0.0.1[127.0.0.1] said: 451 4.5.0 id=12498-03-4 - Temporary MTA failure on relaying, From MTA() during fwd-connect (No greeting, dt: 35.037 s): id=12498-03-4 (in reply to end of DATA command))
Oct 27 17:09:33 mydomain postfix/smtpd[13417]: connect from unknown[127.0.0.1]
Oct 27 17:09:33 mydomain postfix/smtpd[13417]: warning: SASL: Connect to private/auth failed: No such file or directory
Oct 27 17:09:33 mydomain postfix/smtpd[13417]: fatal: no SASL authentication mechanisms
Oct 27 17:09:33 mydomain postfix/smtpd[13419]: connect from unknown[127.0.0.1]
Oct 27 17:09:33 mydomain postfix/smtpd[13419]: warning: SASL: Connect to private/auth failed: No such file or directory
Oct 27 17:09:33 mydomain postfix/smtpd[13419]: fatal: no SASL authentication mechanisms
Oct 27 17:09:34 mydomain postfix/master[12687]: warning: process /usr/libexec/postfix/smtpd pid 13417 exit status 1
Oct 27 17:09:34 mydomain postfix/master[12687]: warning: /usr/libexec/postfix/smtpd: bad command startup -- throttling
Oct 27 17:09:34 mydomain postfix/master[12687]: warning: process /usr/libexec/postfix/smtpd pid 13419 exit status 1
Oct 27 17:10:01 mydomain postfix/smtpd[13454]: connect from localhost[::1]
Oct 27 17:10:01 mydomain postfix/smtpd[13454]: warning: SASL: Connect to private/auth failed: No such file or directory
Oct 27 17:10:01 mydomain postfix/smtpd[13454]: fatal: no SASL authentication mechanisms
Oct 27 17:10:02 mydomain postfix/master[12687]: warning: process /usr/libexec/postfix/smtpd pid 13454 exit status 1
Oct 27 17:10:02 mydomain postfix/master[12687]: warning: /usr/libexec/postfix/smtpd: bad command startup -- throttling

And restarting apache show this
Starting httpd:
[Mon Oct 27 18:13:46 2014] [warn] NameVirtualHost *:443 has no VirtualHosts
[Mon Oct 27 18:13:46 2014] [warn] NameVirtualHost *:80 has no VirtualHosts
[ OK ]

 

root@mydomain ~]# service dovecot restart
Stopping Dovecot Imap: [FAILED]
Starting Dovecot Imap: doveconf: Fatal: Error in configuration file /etc/dovecot/dovecot.conf line 9: Unknown setting: ssl_protocols
[FAILED]

 

okay so digging further I found that dovecot 2.0.9 , my version with ispconfig doesn't support the ssl_protocols. Do i want to update dovecot and edit some ispconfig 3 files? (Centos 6.5)

 

or comment out the ssl protocols line and look at other apache configs to secure against a poodle bite?

 

okay commented out emails came from site came in... how concerned should I be about the poodle attack business, I am launching a production site this week on this vps. And thank you for all your help.