Install meld on windows box: http://meldmerge.org/ Or some alternative: https://alternativeto.net/software/meld/?platform=windows
OK so still no luck. however by modifying the settings as per this guide i was able to get secure emails to function. as far as the server accepting the connection. i have now moved the main client back to a shared hosting while i figure this out however i still have one remaining client site unable to receive or send their emails. this is my netstat report